31 lessons life has taught me.

As I prepare to step into my 32nd year, I’ve been reflecting on the lessons life has served up.

While I don’t consider myself a self-help guru, I’ve gathered 31 meaningful insights—truths that have quietly shaped the person I am today.

1. Each phase contributes meaningfully to the overall trajectory of your journey.

There’s no such thing as the wrong opportunity, connection, or timing—each experience, even the awkward or frustrating ones, serves a purpose. Missteps are just lessons in disguise, gently (or not so gently) nudging you forward. So, embrace where you are, learn what you can, and trust that what’s meant for you won’t miss you—though it might take a detour for dramatic effect.

2. Trust the process.

Life rarely unfolds according to plan. It’s messy, confusing, and often doesn’t make sense at the moment. But here’s the twist: the outcome usually turns out better than you imagined, even if it’s not what you originally desired. 

3. The process often doesn’t make sense.

If it feels like life is stirring the pot, it’s probably just the Universe working its magic on your soul.

4. Everything happens for a reason.

I used to ask: Why me? Why is my life harder than everyone else’s? But over time, it’s become clear to me that life’s twists and turns shape us in ways we don’t always understand at first.

5. The answers will find you at the right time.

Or, more accurately, when you’re ready to see them. Until then, keep living the questions. 

6. You’ll stay on repeat until the lesson sinks in.

Ever feel like life keeps serving you the same challenge, just in a different form? That’s no coincidence—it’s life’s way of telling you there’s a lesson still waiting to be learned. To break the loop, try shifting your perspective, take a moment to reflect on your choices, and ask yourself what you’re meant to gain from the experience. You’ll likely find that the answers are already within you. It can be frustrating to stay in this cycle, as it prevents progress and growth, but remember to be patient with yourself as you work through it.

7. True treasures are rarely won without effort.

Life has taught me that the most meaningful rewards often require perseverance. The journey may be arduous, but the triumph that follows is unparalleled—an exquisite blend of fulfillment and pride that makes every struggle worthwhile.

8. It gets worse before it gets better.

Challenging paths aren’t necessarily the wrong ones. They’re just life’s way of asking: How badly do you want this?

9. There is no timeline for life.

No, you don’t need to be married by 30, own property by 35, or retire by 40. Life isn’t a checklist. The parameters will always change, and chasing external validation is a never-ending game. Instead, listen to your heart—it’s your compass, not society’s stopwatch.

10. Your worth is not defined by your productivity. 

You are enough, even on the days when your to-do list remains untouched. True value comes from within—believe in your worth, and you are worthy.

11. Passion doesn’t always pay the bills.

This one stung. I’ve always been a dreamer, but dreams don’t pay rent. Choosing practicality over passion isn’t giving up—it’s making space for stability so your dreams can thrive in the long run. 

12. Stay in school (if you can).

Leaving home at 20 meant facing a choice: paying rent or pursuing university. I chose survival over studies—a decision I’ve come to understand but still reflect upon. Education is a profound privilege, one that opens doors to opportunities, growth and connection. If you have the chance to stay in school, cherish it.

13. Read!!!

Books are portals to curiosity, knowledge, and sometimes just the best escape from reality. Read widely, deeply, and often.

14. Experience is far more valuable than material possessions.

As a self-proclaimed minimalist traveler, moving countries twice with just a suitcase and a carry-on truly put my packing philosophy to the test. Both times, I learned the same lesson: you only need the essentials because, in the end, it’s the memories that stick around, not that sweater you thought you couldn’t live without—or that stack of novels you convinced yourself you’d finally read. True story.

15. You are only young once.

So make it count. My 20s were a wild, wonderful mess of solo travel, late-night parties, and spontaneous adventures. I regret none of it, except maybe that one tequila shot. Though these years set the stage for your 30s, make sure to enjoy the journey along the way.

16. Stay curious.

The world is vast and fascinating—never stop exploring it.

17. Laugh often.

A good sense of humour is like WD-40 for life’s squeaky moments. Don’t take everything so seriously—especially yourself.

18. Perfection is overrated.

Newsflash: no one has it all together. The real magic of life often unfolds in the beautiful chaos. Embrace the mess, and don’t forget—the best thing you can be is unapologetically yourself.

19. It’s okay to outgrow people.

Not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. Some people are chapters, not the whole book. Letting go doesn’t diminish the value they once brought; it’s just part of growth.

20. Therapy is a game-changer.

There’s no shame in seeking help. Having someone to talk to—someone who’s trained to listen and guide—can be transformative. Personally, therapy has helped me navigate and heal from childhood traumas. Professionals are able to provide us with the tools we need to tackle the baggage we’ve been lugging around.

21. Remain kind.

Especially in a world that sometimes feels determined to knock you down. I once believed kindness invited trouble, but I’ve since realized the issue wasn’t kindness—it was failing to set clear boundaries. Be kind to others, as we’re all fighting battles unseen, but don’t let anyone mistake your kindness for weakness or take advantage of it.

22. Setting boundaries is an act of self-love.

Saying “no” isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. I learned this the hard way, through heartbreaks and the endless act of over-giving and feeling depleted at the end. Boundaries are not just protective walls; they are the foundation of healthy, sustainable relationships with both ourselves and others. 

23. Love yourself first.

You can’t pour from an empty cup, no matter how determined you are.

24. There is strength in asking for help.

Embracing independence is empowering, but true strength lies in being a woman who recognizes when to seek help. I used to think asking for support meant admitting weakness, but I’ve learned the hard way—no one can do it all alone. There’s power in recognizing when you need help and having the courage to ask for it.

A heartfelt thank you to everyone who has offered me their love—I wouldn’t be here today without your encouragement!

25. Consistency beats motivation every time.

Motivation can be as fickle as the weather, but consistency builds lasting habits. Many successful individuals swear by it—there must be some truth to that, right? Though I’m not yet at my desired destination, I can confidently say that showing up consistently has been key in reaching my goals and will continue to be the driving force that gets me where I want to go.

26. Gratitude changes everything.

It’s a simple yet profound reminder: we are living the very answers to our prayers. There is always something to be grateful for—whether it’s a roof over our heads, clean water, the privilege of education, or the freedom to dream. Many are praying for the things we sometimes take for granted. Gratitude opens our hearts to the abundance already present in our lives. 

27. Follow your heart, not the critics.

Despite the inevitable presence of naysayers, it’s crucial to pursue your heart's desires with unwavering commitment. My journey, marked by career pivots and relocations, has often been met with skepticism and judgment from those who only see the surface. But here’s the thing: what really matters isn’t what others think, but the deep satisfaction that comes from following your heart. Even when the road ahead feels like a series of question marks, keep going—because the destination is sweet, but the journey is where the magic (and occasional confusion) happens. Trust me, it's worth it—even if others think you're lost!

28. What you dislike in others often mirrors what you dislike in yourself.

Ah, the brutal truth—one I certainly grappled with. I used to find myself genuinely triggered by people who didn’t quite vibe with me. Then, much to my chagrin, I realized that their behavior was merely mirroring something within myself—an aspect I was unwilling to confront or accept.

29. Be humble.

There was a time when I felt compelled to prove my worth, driven by the belief that my age made me invisible, despite having faced my share of challenges that pushed me to mature quicker than my peers. Over time, however, I’ve come to appreciate the power of silence—often, the quietest voices hold the most wisdom. And frankly, that’s the kind of person I aspire to be.

30. Age is merely a reflection of the mind’s perception.

My students in France are often taken aback when they learn that I am in my 30s—perhaps in an attempt to flatter their teacher. Yet, I still feel youthful at heart. The key, I believe, lies in staying physically active through regular exercise, nourishing the mind with intellectual content, prioritizing restful sleep, journaling to stay connected with one’s emotions, and maintaining a balanced diet, for true wealth lies in good health.

31. Life is but at the beginning.

Why waste time in worry when the fullness of your journey lies ahead? Embrace it and enjoy the unfolding!

Here’s to 32—a new chapter, more lessons, and hopefully fewer tequila shots. Cheers!